<P> Big reappears in Carrie's hotel lobby at just the right moment, as Carrie is squatting down, tearfully gathering up stray diamonds from her broken necklace . She is waiting for a new hotel room, as she just walked out on Aleksandr after a big fight . Big comes through the door and as Carrie looks up and sees him, she begins to cry . She explains that everything is a mess and Paris isn't what she thought it would be . Then she tells Big that Alexandr slapped her during an argument . Big becomes protective and immediately begins climbing the stairs to Aleksandr's room to reprimand him (or as he puts it, "kick some Russian ass"). In a desperate attempt to stop him, Carrie trips him and they both fall to the floor, laughing hysterically . They give up seeking out Petrovsky and take a romantic stroll in Paris . He finally tells her she's the one and she asks him to take her home to New York . They arrive at Carrie's apartment late at night and she asks him if he wants to come up . He answers with a memorable line he used in the first episode ("abso - fucking - lutely"), which reminds the audience that he is still, in fact, the confident, sexy Big that Carrie has been in love with from day one . </P> <P> His real name, John, is finally revealed on Carrie's cell phone caller ID after she returns to the city and he calls to tell her he is closing the sale of his Napa estate and returning to New York . Executive producer Michael Patrick King has stated that by never revealing his real name, Big remained "always slightly out of reach" for Carrie, and this plot device is maintained throughout the entire run of the series . Although we see his name in that final shot, Michael Patrick King makes a point (in the DVD commentary) that we never hear it spoken in the series . </P> <P> In the feature film Sex and the City: The Movie, Carrie and Big decide to marry, after Carrie brings it up when she starts to feel anxious about her relationship's status . She has just returned from an auction of jewelry from the collection of a woman (who was the long - time girlfriend of a wealthy man) who was abruptly dumped and thrown out of the apartment she'd shared with him for many years . The cautionary tale worries Carrie, so Big proposes in order for Carrie to have legal rights to the fabulous penthouse they are purchasing together . However, their plans for a simple wedding balloon out of control after Vogue decides to feature her in a wedding gown in the magazine . The twice - divorced Big feels it has degenerated into a "circus", with hundreds of guests, unwanted publicity, and a tremendous designer wedding gown taking over the original plan for a small, private ceremony . An ill - thought comment from the just - separated and upset Miranda rattles him further . Just before the ceremony Big gives in to cold feet and bails, but rethinks the decision minutes later and rushes back . He intercepts Carrie as she is leaving the ceremony . A broken - hearted and humiliated Carrie attacks him with her bouquet, shrieking "I knew you would do this!" He repeatedly attempts to apologize and explain then and after, but Carrie ignores his letters and emails, and they spend months apart (close to a year) with no contact whatsoever . </P> <P> When Carrie hires an assistant, Louise, she instructs her to "put Big in a place where she never has to hear from him again ." So Louise creates a folder in Carrie's e-mail that is password protected and Big's many e-mails are saved in the secret folder . Charlotte later gives birth to a baby--her water breaking while she is yelling at Big for breaking Carrie's heart . Big takes her to the hospital and stays until the baby is born, hoping to run into Carrie . When Carrie arrives at the hospital, they tell her the tale . Harry reveals that Big begged her to call him, and that he's written her many letters . Puzzled, Carrie goes home and scours her mail, realizing that his e-mails are in Louise's secret folder . She guesses the password and finds that Big has re-written numerous love letters by poets, and one from himself promising to love her forever . Carrie's assistant reminds her that she left a pair of never - worn Manolo Blahnik shoes in the penthouse that she and Big owned, and that the locks will be changed for the new owners that day . Carrie rushes over to the penthouse to find Big there, holding her shoes . She runs into his arms as she can no longer deny her still very strong love for him . Carrie narrates, "It wasn't logic; it was love," and the two quietly marry at New York City Hall . </P>

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