<P> An attractive younger woman pursued by a wealthy man who is perceived as wanting her only for her looks may be called a trophy wife . The opposite term trophy husband does not have an agreed upon use, but is becoming more common in usage: some will use the term to refer to the attractive stay - at - home husband of a much more famous woman; whereas some will use it to refer to the husband of a trophy wife, as he is her trophy due to the wealth and prestige he brings her . In the latter case, the term trophy is broadened to include any substantial difference in power originating from physical looks, wealth, or status . </P> <P> It should be noted that the trophy label is often perceived as objectifying the partner, with or without the partner's implicit consent . </P> <P> Where the primary perceived reason for a relationship with a significant age difference is sexual, many gender - specific terms have become popular in English - speaking cultures . A woman of middle to elderly age who pursues younger men is a cougar or puma, and a man in a relationship with an older woman is often called a boytoy, toyboy, himbo, or cub . In reverse, the terms rhino, trout and manther (a play on the panther term for women) are generally used to label an older man pursuing younger women, and the younger woman in such a relationship may be called a kitten or panther . If the woman is extremely young (just over, or possibly under, the legal age of consent), the man may be labelled a cradle - robber . An older term for any licentious or lascivious man is a lecher, and that term and its shortening of lech have become common to describe an elderly man who makes passes at much younger women . </P> <P> While often intended to be derogatory, some of these terms are often used by the participants in the relationship to describe themselves and each other . Some are viewed as mildly self - deprecating, others as neutral or even complimentary terms, much like individuals stereotypically referred to as nerds, geeks, or jocks have often come to own those terms as a source of pride in their identity . When the attraction between two people of significantly different ages seems genuinely romantic, the terms are often used playfully, especially as one or the other of the partners ages in to a particular term . </P>

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