<P> "I, being born a woman and distressed" is a poem by American author Edna St. Vincent Millay . The poem appeared in Millay's 1923 collection The Harp - Weaver and Other Poems . The first - person speaker of the fourteen - line, Italian sonnet addresses a potential lover . She confesses to an intense physical attraction but denies the possibility of any emotional or intellectual connection . </P> <P> The speaker of the poem openly describes her "zest / To bear (another person's) body's weight upon (her) breast" in a physical "frenzy" (Millay 4 - 5, 13). This blunt admission of female sexual desire in a woman's voice has led some readers to view the sonnet as a "frank, feminist poem" in which Millay "acknowledg (es) her biological needs as a woman that leave her' undone, possessed"'. What is perhaps more groundbreaking than the honesty with which Millay describes sexual desire is her speaker's refusal to couple desire with love; the physical is "insufficient reason / For conversation when (the lovers) meet again" (Millay 13 - 14). She offers her sexual partner neither "love" nor "pity" (Millay 11, 12). This poem might serve as evidence that Millay truly was an emblem of the New Woman in "pursuit of authentic intimate relations without interference from artificial constraints, legal or social, or their psychological residue, jealousy ." </P>

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