<P> On December 20, 2006, an electrical problem set fire to her house in Kailua, Hawaii, destroying the house and all of her possessions while she was on the set of Lost . Though she lost all of her belongings, she said that the fire "was almost liberating, I'm in no hurry to clutter up my life again". </P> <P> Lilly was married to Canadian Murray Hone from 2003 to 2004 . She was also in a relationship with her Lost co-star Dominic Monaghan from 2004 to 2009 . In 2010, Lilly began a long term relationship with Norman Kali . She gave birth to their first child, a son named Kahekili (Hawaiian for "the thunder"), in 2011 . Their second child, a son, was born in October 2015 . </P> <P> She works with non-profits such as the GO Campaign . In 2009, Lilly auctioned off custom lingerie in support of Task Brasil, "a non-profit organization dedicated to helping the lost street children of Brazil by providing them secure housing". In 2010, she auctioned off three lunches in Vancouver, Honolulu, and Los Angeles to help widows and orphans in Rwanda, a country she has made numerous trips to as part of her charity work . Afterwards, in 2012, Lilly auctioned off a Hawaiian hike to raise money for the Sierra Club . </P> <P> Lilly received wide - scale media attention for stating in a 2014 interview with The Huffington Post: "I'm very proud of being a woman, and as a woman, I don't even like the word feminism because when I hear that word, I associate it with women trying to pretend to be men, and I'm not interested in trying to pretend to be a man ." </P>

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