<Li> Projecting the blame (blaming others): Manipulator scapegoats in often subtle, hard - to - detect ways . Often, the manipulator will project their own thinking onto the victim, making the victim look like they have done something wrong . Manipulators will also claim that the victim is the one who is at fault for believing lies that they were conned into believing, as if the victim forced the manipulator to be deceitful . All blame, except for the part that is used by the manipulator to accept false guilt, is done in order to make the victim feel guilty about making healthy choices, correct thinking and good behaviors . It is frequently used as a means of psychological and emotional manipulation and control . Manipulators lie about lying, only to re-manipulate the original, less believable story into a "more acceptable" truth that the victim will believe . Projecting lies as being the truth is another common method of control and manipulation . Manipulators love to falsely accuse the victim as "deserving to be treated that way ." They often claim that the victim is crazy and / or abusive, especially when there is evidence against the manipulator . (See Feigning, below .) </Li> <Li> Feigning innocence: Manipulator tries to suggest that any harm done was unintentional or that they did not do something that they were accused of . Manipulator may put on a look of surprise or indignation . This tactic makes the victim question their own judgment and possibly their own sanity . </Li> <Li> Feigning confusion: Manipulator tries to play dumb by pretending they do not know what the victim is talking about or is confused about an important issue brought to their attention . The manipulator intentionally confuses the victim in order for the victim to doubt their own accuracy of perception, often pointing out key elements that the manipulator intentionally included in case there is room for doubt . Sometimes manipulators will have used cohorts in advance to help back up their story . </Li> <Li> Brandishing anger: Manipulator uses anger to brandish sufficient emotional intensity and rage to shock the victim into submission . The manipulator is not actually angry, they just put on an act . They just want what they want and get "angry" when denied . Controlled anger is often used as a manipulation tactic to avoid confrontation, avoid telling the truth or to further hide intent . There are often threats used by the manipulator of going to police, or falsely reporting abuses that the manipulator intentionally contrived to scare or intimidate the victim into submission . Blackmail and other threats of exposure are other forms of controlled anger and manipulation, especially when the victim refuses initial requests or suggestions by the manipulator . Anger is also used as a defense so the manipulator can avoid telling truths at inconvenient times or circumstances . Anger is often used as a tool or defense to ward off inquiries or suspicion . The victim becomes more focused on the anger instead of the manipulation tactic . </Li>

4 common reasons for others being intentionally difficult