<P> If the child is around pre-school age and goes through this event with their parents, lets say around the ages of three to six, then the way they think is very self - involved . Their way of thinking is all about "me" and will remain that way until they hit around seven . Because of this way of thinking, they are at the most risk of thinking that they are at fault with their own parents splitting up . They are the most vulnerable age and are usually the most negatively effected . They have most likely never seen a functional relationship from their parents so they will grow up with a sort of distorted image of what a marriage should be like unless the parents are remarried in to a successful marriage . </P> <P> At this age is when the gender takes a role . When boys are in this situation, they will most likely still have a strong relationship with both parents . But if it is a girl in the situation, they will most likely grow up with more anger and regret towards the parent who's "fault" it is . When typically this aggression is towards the father, this could lead to difficult relationships with men in the future . As well as many different trust issues depending on the reasoning behind the divorce . Infidelity being the top reason here in the United States . Taking from personal experiences, there can be longer lasting effects in what the emotional damage can do to a child who has experienced an unhealthy relationship and a divorce . </P> <P> At the age of six to about the age of twelve is when more physiological effects take place . As well as when school becomes more difficult to focus on . When there is more of an emotional toll if you will . With school in session, children may bottle up their feelings and not be as talkative or act like their normal selves . During this age, it is very important to understand how to talk to your child who is going through this . With all of the stress as well as schooling it could all become very overwhelming . You may see the grades of the child start to slip . If this happens it is a sign that the child is distracted . This is a good indicator as to what the child may be thinking or feeling . </P> <P> As we get into the higher ages more matters factor in . At the age of thirteen to about seventeen is when you must factor in the hormone levels coming from puberty . This could be pretty overwhelming for someone who feels as if their whole life is turning upside down anyways . Being a teenager is hard enough as it is and when you are going through puberty on top of a divorce it can feel like the end of the world . As for males, they always seem that they have less of an emotional toll from this situation . Although this is more of when males have more resentment towards their fathers . They often see them as the cause of the situation . This is because they are very attached to their mother and to see their mother go through something this emotionally straining can take a toll on them . They often act out their aggression since their hormones are also off the wall due to puberty they do not know how to channel their own aggression in a healthy way . </P>

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