<P> A child is not required to obey if a parent says that s / he must marry a particular person, or must not marry a person s / he wishes to marry, provided the marriage is permissible by Jewish law . </P> <P> A child who is travelling has an obligation to communicate with his / her parents to let them know s / he is safe in order to prevent them from worrying . </P> <P> A child must continue to honour his / her parent after their deaths . This can be done by reciting kaddish for 11 months and on the yarzeit (anniversary of the parent's death), and by donating charity in the memory of the parent . The study of Torah is also considered to be reverence toward a parent, for it shows that a parent raised a worthy child . </P> <P> A child must never put a parent to shame, or speak arrogantly to a parent . A person who is told to do something by his / her mother for which his father does not like the result is not permitted to tell his / her father that his / her mother said to do that . This is because this could lead to his / her father cursing his / her mother . A child is not permitted to interrupt or contradict a parent, or to disturb a parent's sleep . </P>

What does honor thy father and mother really mean