<P> The single won many awards throughout 1998 and 1999 . It was nominated for three Grammy Awards at the 41st annual ceremony, winning both singers their first prize by the National Academy of Recording Arts and Sciences in the Best R&B Performance by a Duo or Group with Vocals category . It, however, lost in its nominations for Record of the Year and Best R&B Song to Celine Dion's "My Heart Will Go On" and Lauryn Hill's "Doo Wop (That Thing)" respectively . The song garnered three Billboard Music Awards . It is listed as the 62nd on the most successful singles in France ever . It is also listed among one of the most successful 200 singles in Australia, Netherlands and Belgium in music history . </P> <P> It was listed as number 55 of the Hot 100 singles of all time by Billboard in 1998 . This position was raised to number 54 in 2008 . In addition, it was listed 18th on the All - Time Top R&B / Hip - Hop Songs countdown . In 2008, Billboard ranked the song third on a special The 40 Biggest Duets of All Time listing . The song is the best - selling song of 1998 in the United States with 2.6 million copies sold . </P> <P> The official music video uses the radio edit version without the intro . The video begins with the girls in their respective apartments, watching television on their long couches . While Brandy watches an episode of The Jerry Springer Show Monica accidentally turns Brandy's TV, with her remote, to an old romantic movie which Monica watches on her own TV . Whenever one of them turns the channel, the other's TV stays on that channel and they soon tire of the back and forth . They then start to sing the song . The next scene shows the two discussing their problem among their separate groups of friends . The "boy" himself (played by Mekhi Phifer) then appears outside the two girls' apartments, which are next to each other; all their friends walk by him as they exit their respective friend's place . The girls are in their pajamas in the next scene, and then each phones the boy over to make him decide whom he wants to be with . After Brandy and Monica fight with the song's lyrics, the man comes to the left apartment, frustrated over whom to choose . The door opens, showing Brandy . Then it swings a little wider to reveal Monica as well . The boy is taken aback, and the door is slammed in his face . </P> <P> The video, filmed in April 1998 and uses 90 - degree tilts to depict the drama and the playfulness between the two, premiered on April 29, 1998, and was nominated for two 1998 MTV Video Music Awards, for Best R&B Video and Video of the Year, but lost to both Wyclef Jean's "Gone Till November" and Madonna's "Ray of Light" respectively . </P>

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