<P> Eleanor's father (William Hurt) also attempts to get her to see a psychiatrist . It is revealed that Eleanor has recently lost a son and has been incapable of coping with the grief . </P> <P> In class one day Eleanor is handed a note and realizes it has been sent to her by Conor (James McAvoy). She leaves class and the two have a heated argument where she tells him to leave her alone . Finally assenting, Conor leaves only to be hit by a passing car . Eleanor reveals to the taxi cab driver who hit him that Conor is her husband . Conor is only mildly injured by the incident and before he goes to the hospital he asks if he can see Eleanor again . </P> <P> After Katy tells Eleanor that Conor has been by the house, Eleanor goes to see him at his restaurant, where she learns it is failing . She suggests that they rent a car and go driving aimlessly, something that she had once suggested they do when they were dating . Conor rents the car but it begins to rain heavily and their windshield wiper is broken making driving impossible . While they wait for the rain to pass Eleanor tries to initiate sex but Conor stops her and Eleanor realizes he has slept with someone else during their separation . She tells him it doesn't matter but on the return trip home she gets out of the car early and takes a moment to gather herself before continuing home . </P> <P> The following evening, Eleanor and Katy go clubbing . Eleanor tries to pick up a stranger to have a one - night stand but finds herself unable to go through with it . Instead, she later goes to her former apartment to see Conor . She tells him she can no longer remember what their child looked like and he tells her that their son looked like her, but with his eyes . The two have sex, but Eleanor leaves and returns home . At her mother's suggestion she decides to leave for Paris and finish the anthropology dissertation she abandoned when she met Conor . </P>

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