<P> Carrie eventually falls in love with Big, despite his fear of commitment . His reserved communication on relationship issues and Carrie's coping with the ambiguity are a frequent plot device . Carrie repeatedly returns to the relationship even though he is clearly emotionally unavailable to her and unable to meet her needs . Although it appears Mr. Big was emotionally crippled by a series of failed relationships, the subject is often glossed over as him simply being selfish . Mr. Big's tendency to take major emotional steps in the relationship more slowly than Carrie is often portrayed as emotional unavailability rather than the caution born of a repeatedly broken heart . Carrie's misinterpretation of Mr. Big's inner turmoil as unreachable distance often creates larger issues because of her misplaced feelings of unworthiness, and due to her propensity for not communicating truthfully until too late, results in a lot of painful misunderstandings . Carrie accepts no responsibility for her impatience and lack of empathy, often issuing ultimatums (I.e. first break - up), and Big can't shed his ingrained emotional pessimism to fully embrace Carrie as a partner . They break up repeatedly, over the course of two years for those reasons, before Big marries a gorgeous twenty - six - year - old socialite and Ralph Lauren employee named Natasha (Bridget Moynahan) after dating her for only five months . This hurts Carrie, as she wonders why he could take steps with Natasha that he refused to take with Carrie . It becomes obvious later that Mr. Big had simply skipped many of the important emotional steps before marriage, many of which he had definitely, if slowly, taken with Carrie, ironically creating the problems of distance and unavailability between Big and Natasha, which Carrie had so feared in their own relationship . </P> <P> Within seven months of his marriage, he begins to chafe at his matrimonial bonds and pines for Carrie; he initiates an affair with her . Carrie, who is in a committed relationship (with Aidan Shaw) at the time, feels guilty but continues to see Big . The affair continues until Natasha comes home unexpectedly and discovers Carrie fleeing - half dressed - from the marital apartment . Natasha trips and breaks her tooth while chasing after Carrie, who ends up taking Natasha to the emergency room . As a result, Carrie ends the affair . Carrie later finds out that Big and Natasha have divorced . </P> <P> Big and Carrie eventually become close friends . He relocates to Napa Valley, and they are able to discuss their other ongoing relationships with each other . But their sexual chemistry always remains just below the surface, and their friendship never remains strictly platonic . After reading Carrie's book, Big begins to understand how much he has hurt her, and he empathizes further when a woman he is dating treats him in a fashion similar to the way Big has treated Carrie: at arm's length, eschewing true intimacy . The relationship between Big and the celebrity is certainly a parallel between Carrie / Big, except that the celebrity refuses physical intimacy one - sidedly, ignoring Big's overtures except when it suits her, whereas Carrie / Big's problems were almost completely emotional and undeniably two sided . Although it ends up allowing Big to finally get past his inner pain, the comparison is rather crude . Big grows as an emotional being, changing and evolving as the series progresses, moving past innate pain to suit Carrie's needs better, ostensibly becoming a "better man ." </P> <P> Big seems to have no real friends, at least in New York . He is rarely shown with other males, and when he is, they are usually credited as colleagues or acquaintances . At one scene he is shown to spend New Year's Eve celebration alone, sitting at a restaurant, but seems to feel comfortable with the situation . </P>

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