<P> Carmela sometimes has intense guilt for having sacrificed her children's security for the luxuries Tony's career could provide . She also defends her children from Tony when they do something wrong . She has shown herself willing to use her mob - wife status to intimidate others, as she does in "Full Leather Jacket", where she not - too - subtly manipulates her neighbor's Georgetown - alumna sister into writing a letter of recommendation for Meadow to Georgetown, hoping Meadow would not go to UC Berkeley but rather stay closer to home . Also, she discards a letter from Berkeley to Meadow requesting transcripts, but later retrieves it from the trash in a moment of guilt . While she is very proud of Meadow's accomplishments and ambition, Carmela is also jealous and resentful of her daughter for achieving the independence and success she always wanted herself . She constantly frets over A.J.'s troubles and inactivity, yet tends to coddle him and is unwilling to impose any real restrictions on him . She has trouble with her husband's profession, considering him more a Robin Hood - like character and just another "crook" rather than a brutal murderer . </P> <P> Carmela's resentment of her husband's infidelity has often driven her to the brink of breaking her marriage vows during some sexually charged moments with her priest, Father Phil Intintola (in "College"), and painter - decorator Vic Musto . During the fourth season, Carmela has a mutual romantic infatuation with Furio Giunta . Tony had secured Furio from the Camorra clan while on an inaugural trip to Naples, the Soprano family ancestral homeland, a trip that Carmela had wanted to be a part of . Carmela reaches a low point with Tony's constant string of affairs and the two have a romantically - tense but "arms - length" relationship for a period . Each confides to separate friends that they are falling for each other but Furio, no longer able to bear the burden that the internal conflict is causing him (that of his feelings conflicting with his honor, as well as his respect to the "family" hierarchy), sells his house and moves back to Italy . This sends Carmela into a depression . </P> <P> By the end of the fourth season, Tony and Carmela separate after Tony's former mistress Irina Peltsin calls the Soprano home, talks to A.J., and informs Carmela that Tony slept with Irina's cousin and Junior's nurse, Svetlana Kirilenko . Carmela even begins dating A.J.'s guidance counselor, Robert Wegler, and pursuing divorce proceedings against Tony, but is drawn back to her husband by financial concerns and difficulties in rearing A.J., as well as a difficult breakup with Wegler, who correctly accuses Carmela of using sex to manipulate him into giving A.J. special treatment in school . At the end of the fifth season, Carmela agrees to reunite with Tony after he agrees to purchase a $600,000 investment property in Montville, under Carmela's name, so she could build a spec house . Despite some initial awkwardness, the two are firmly reunited after Tony is shot by his uncle, Junior Soprano, both during his coma and after his hospital release . The crisis seems to have strengthened their bond . </P> <P> Carmela's selfish, materialistic nature is never far from the surface . After Tony surprises his delighted wife with a Porsche Cayenne Turbo, Carmela proceeds to flaunt her new car in front of Ginny Sacrimoni and Angie Bonpensiero, both of whom were reported to be having serious financial problems . Carmela is somewhat embarrassed when Angie admires Carmela's car and tells her that she recently purchased a Corvette with her own money, showing that Angie has achieved a certain level of financial independence and Carmela has not . </P>

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